“Trust is a little bit like love, when you give it, you
receive it.” In my opinion, this quote
from Houston and Sokolow defines trust. Trustworthy people confide in others
who will be true to them. I agree with
the chapter when it states that trust is the foundation which our relationships
are built on. As I evaluate my deep relationships, I see a common thread which
is trust. .
I am very lucky to have had the same best friends for over
20 years. I have three friends who I have grown up with. We can share anything
with each other. We are four totally different people who are constantly
intertwined. I am truly myself with these ladies. I had wonderful friends in college,
but the relationships did not seem to compare to my “old” friendships. We know
each other inside and out and it always feels good to be yourself. I can trust
that we will have each other no matter what. I also have a newer friend who I
can confide in. We have so much in common, so it is always nice to travel
through some challenges together. Once again I can be myself with her and I feel
her trust. Considering Houston and Sokolow’s analogy of floors, my husband is
also on the top floor.
A few years ago I met someone who I did
not trust. I felt that she saw the world as a “zero game”. Sokolow and Houston
explain that these people cannot be trusted. They feel like they need to knock
others down to feel good. I struggled to get along with her because of the
distrust that we had for each other. As
I got to know this person, I felt that her own insecurities made her feel like
she had to compete with others. Our relationship built into something positive,
but because of the shaky foundation, I never opened up to her.
I feel that if we all support each other and accept others
for who we/they are, great things can happen. I catch myself trying to fit into
multiple pairs of shoes at times. I want others to see me as someone I might
not be. This needs to stop. I am going to end this blog with some wise words
from Houston and Sokolow’s chapter on trust, “The world is made up of a lot of
imperfect people trying to move forward.” We are all trying to do the same
thing....let’s help one another!